This Sunday I got a new calling. I feel guilty about how happy I am about my new calling. I am now the
YW secretary. Is it O.K. to admit that I disliked my former calling? I was teaching the Sunbeams in Primary. I DIDN'T dislike the SUNBEAMS. I loved the sunbeams--both the ones that I had for the last six months and the ones that I taught for a grand total of one week. It's just that keeping small children quiet and happy for two hours when they have already endured one hour of church is NOT my strong point! I have taught preschool in my home with kids this age and enjoyed it a lot. But I didn't have to keep them sitting quietly for two hours in that situation. Some people (like my husband) are very creative and can come up with great ideas to keep kids happy but reverent. I am not one of those people. I feel on the verge of panic when facing eight wiggly 3-year-
olds at church. Really. Desperate. Overwhelmed. (It doesn't help to have my husband tell me all his great ideas. They work for him but not for me!) It's not where my talent lies--which I figured was why I had this calling--so I could learn this talent through experience. But I felt so unsettled in my calling--angry, even. And then I would feel guilty for feeling angry.
I absolutely know that teaching young children is one of the most important callings in the church. Of course it is a calling that requires a lot of giving. It is a calling that takes more effort to grow spiritually. You don't go home from church feeling spiritually fed most of the time. You go home feeling exhausted! And that's O.K. because it's important to teach these little ones. And every once in a great while you do have a magic moment when the spirit is there and you know that the children have felt it and that they have learned something. And there are other magic moments when they teach you--when you feel the purity and greatness of their spirits and the closeness that they have to Heavenly Father because they were there with Him not so long ago. So I would tell myself all of these things and wonder why I dreaded Sundays. Maybe it's because the sad fact is that I don't have much to give these days. The last few years drained my spiritual
reservoir and I feel like I'm still trying to fill it up again. My testimony is as strong as it has ever been--I'm just tired. Spiritually tired--is that possible? I believe it is because Elder
Wirthlin talked about it in his April 2008 Conference talk. I remember because I thought, "He understands exactly how I'm feeling!"
At any rate, if I am going to be teaching very young children, give me the nursery any day over Sunbeams. There's not much difference in the age of the children--but in nursery you have snack time and play time and hardly any of sitting in chairs being quiet. Teaching Sunbeams I'm somehow supposed to get those kids to sit quietly in a row of chairs for singing and sharing time. I understand why they can't do it--I was bored, too. None of us could see or hear what was going on. And then I have to get them to class while half of them are refusing to budge and crying for their moms and the other half are running down the hall and are about to crash the next ward's Sacrament meeting in a very noisy fashion. Once I manage to get them all safely into the classroom, we can at least do a little more moving around and a little more making of noise and some hands-on activities but we still have to keep it under control enough that the classes in the adjoining rooms and across the hall aren't disturbed. Ugh!
My new batch of Sunbeams fresh from the nursery was quite an interesting little group. Two of the little girls have had their dads pass away--which is extremely unusual, of course, for children of such a tender age. Three of them are twins. Three, you ask? Yes--two little boys who just turned three in December. One of them has a freckle right under his eye, thank goodness, so you can tell them apart immediately instead of having to wait until you get to know them better. I am LOATHE to say "Which one are you?" to them EVER because I know how tiresome it is to hear that your whole life. The other twin is a little girl who was born 14 weeks early and weighed less than 2 lbs. Her twin sister lived only 9 days. Another little boy in my class was adopted and his parents were just able to adopt another infant boy in December. Almost all of them have unusual names--I couldn't even tell if most of them were girls or boys by their names when they gave me the list--Maren,
Ayden,
Kaymin, Salem,
Maddux, and
Kayden are six of the eight names! I was also already having trouble calling
Kaymin (one of the girls)
Kayden and
Kayden (one of the boys)
Kaymin. So I loved my little Sunbeams and I will miss them, but I will not miss the stress involved. Niles helped me with my Sunbeam class last week and when he told me after church that I did a good job, I burst into tears. That's when I dumped everything on him about how inadequate, desperate, angry, guilty, panicky I felt. After the executive secretary called two days later to tell me the bishop wanted to talk to me, I asked Niles if he had told anyone about my emotional Sunday conversation. He says he didn't and I do believe him. Since I had just been given a new class, I didn't figure they were going to pull me out of Primary any time soon. I figured if they were going to change my calling, it would have happened before they assigned classes for the coming year. I was sure that I was going to be teaching Sunbeams for the next year. So I feel a little guilty--really, I was willing to serve there despite the fact that I was having a hard time with it. I was hopeful I would get better at it as time went on.
However, I am really excited about working with the
YW and getting to know them better. And I will be able to be more involved with Jumble, and soon Minnie, too. (Minnie has 15 Sundays left to go to Primary but she's not counting!!) We have New Beginnings next week. It feels like the right place for me to be right now.
Jumble is getting a new calling this week. (I guess it is O.K. to reveal this early since none of you are in our ward.) She is being called to be the Mia Maid President. We're sure this will be a great experience for her. I'm happy to say I have never had a calling that involved being the President of anything and I hope I can say that until the day I die. I have no aspirations to be President of anything. I'm just fine with being a follower. Since I am such a "Type A" personality--an accountant--account for everything and make sure everything is correct and in the right place--I've always wished I could be the financial clerk or the membership clerk. Since neither of those are options, being the secretary of either R.S., Y.W., or Primary is the closest that I can get. So along with associating with the Y.W. and participating in their activities and lessons and such, and helping the Presidency with whatever they need me to do, I will enjoy making sure that
everyone's lists are always up-to-date with accurate spelling and birthdays and addresses and stuff like that. THAT is one of my strong points.